If you didn’t know this about me already, I’ve been in the Todd Durkin Mastermind Group for several years now collaborating and coaching with other fitness business professionals from around the world. It’s been a life changing experience and have built relationships with amazing fire breathing dragons who I call my family.
And right now we are all in a friendly MyZone competition. MyZone is a heart rate monitoring device that connects to your phone, allows you to see other people’s stats on heart rate, calories burned and MEPS earned (MyZone effort points, rewarding effort rather than fitness). You can also form challenges and section them off into teams which is what we’re doing for the month of May themed Game of Thrones, a show I admittedly have never seen.
I have THE one and only Todd Durkin on my team and let me tell you, it can be intimidating. This guy is a machine. The majority of these people are machines! I used to be a machine! Some still say I’m a machine. At my day job, my nicknames vary between “machine,” “Becca the board killer,” “workhorse,” “the boss,” etc. If you know my recent aliments, I certainly don’t feel like a machine lately.
Here’s the message I want to deliver. It’s YOU vs. YOU. Don't get caught up in the comparison trap!
I am not the same person I used to be physically. Nobody is really. Some people make a radical shift in their mindset and change their appearance and strength and that is always awesome to see. It’s important for me to address this because there seems to be an almost depressive state people get into when they think back of what they “used to do” to the point that they give up completely.
I’m going to do my Al Bundy reflection for a moment. I used to be a nationally ranked BMX competitor, state champion in my age group, figure competitor, and even competed in a triathlon not knowing how to swim and obstacle course Spartan Races. I would pride myself of how hard I could work at my day job then come home and kill it in my workouts and then the back yard. There is nothing greater than that sense of accomplishment.
Now, if I tried doing that with the same intensity that I had my body would shut down! When my body temperature gets too hot I go into a panic attack. If my heart rate goes too high for an extended period of time, I go into a panic attack. If I’m in any way without food for longer than 3 hours my blood sugar tanks. And now of course with this chronic chest pain, not only are my upper body workouts limited but so is any activity like yard work, working in the garage and even lifting little Emma on my left side.
BUT!! Here’s the lesson from the message. It’s one of my core values and that’s to keep climbing. We have to keep moving that needle 2mm each day to the direction we want to go. And we have to keep celebrating the small wins! We have to keep getting up and doing even the smallest movements, any movements even if we don’t feel like it. Some days we have to get up and recommit to ourselves every single day. Maybe it’s because we’re tired, or sore, or not feeling well, or even if we just don’t want to and have become disenchanted with moving our bodies. Some days it’s easy and some days it can feel like a never ending battle to just get moving. I get it. I seriously do.
I know I physically cannot do what I used to do and I’m totally OK with that and accept it fully. What I would not accept of myself is if I just gave up. If I stopped finding ways that my body could still benefit from and feel good with. We are our own test subjects and if something isn’t working we need to keep going until we find something that does.
I get told almost on a daily basis from my students that I make things look easy. I take this as a compliment but also remind my students it’s my job to show the correct form so they know what to look for, feel and expect and to modify if needed. If I had trouble showing the correct form and couldn’t do it, it would be very unprofessional of me to expect my students to do it correctly if I couldn’t.
So if you’re having that negative self-talk about comparing yourself to someone else or to what you used to be, take a breath and ask yourself what are the small steps you can do to keep moving forward? Focusing on those small imperfect wins add up and create a compound effect. Trust me, I’m also a recovering perfectionist. Imperfection daily beats perfection when you feel like. As my coach Todd says, “Ready, fire, aim. If you wait to aim you’ll never fire.”
What can you do to Recommit to YOU?
Make your move,
As I’m watching Frozen for the umpteenth time today with little Em’s and hearing Olaf over and over, it’s so true how that annoying little snowman has a point.
“Love is putting someone else’s needs before yours.”
As Tony Robbins states “We have six human needs in life: certainty, significance, variety, love/connection, growth and contribution.”
It is only by meeting the growth and contribution needs (putting someone else’s needs before yours as Olaf says) that you will experience sustainable joy VS. momentary pleasure.
If people are NOT contributing and basically only thinking of themselves, they cannot be fulfilled for the long term and will begin certain negative behaviors to feel significance, connection, certainty or variety.
May is National Recommitment Month and I’m dedicated to helping women Recommit to themselves. Heck I even created a program called Recommit to YOU in 42 that I’ve taught over the last 5 years.
I’ll be launching that again soon but for now, I want you to think about the areas of your life where you can contribute or grow so that you can Recommit to YOU
I used to ask myself, “how do the super achievers do it all?’ I spent many years grinding at my business and other areas of my life so I certainly felt like I was doing the work of any super achiever. Physically and mentally. People would even often tell me “I don’t know how you do it all!” Even then, I really didn’t feel like I was a super achiever. I would often think “gosh, when am I ever going to *get* THERE?”
Where is THERE anyway?
In my quest to simplify my business and life, I realized that it was focusing on the basics every day that were going to yield me the best results.
The same is with beginning any exercise or nutrition program. Focusing on keeping it simple and mastering the basics will also give you the best long-lasting results.
This simple concept can really be applied to any area of your life.
So, if you’re stuck in a rut, how do we recommit to ourselves?
How do super achievers do it all? The answer is, they don’t.
They have their priorities clear in their mind and they DECLINE everything else that comes their way. Yup, just say no.
Remember Jim Rohn said if you have more than half a dozen priorities you don’t have any…
What top 3-6 DAILY habits or non-negotiables as I like to call them do you need to recommit to yourself and your priorities?
Put those on a graph sheet or somewhere that can be easily seen and checked off DAILY.
Only allow yourself to allocate time to your calendar to something that significantly contributes to the accomplishment of your priorities and here’s the scary part, say no to all the rest.
As I’m setting my May non-negotiables in my planner, I’m reflecting on how I used to stress out about EVERYTHING that needed to get done. I hope this serves as a bit of peace of mind to Recommit to YOU and become a super achiever.
You got this!
Make your move